Caught in Anxiety While Planning a Wedding: How to Manage It All
Planning a wedding is always a stressful job, and couples often get overwhelmed in a certain situation. Yet we can feel the butterflies in the stomach sometimes and this stressful situation can't dominate this joyous feeling at all. It’s normal to feel anxious about the wedding, starting a new job, or moving to a new place. This type of anxiety is unpleasant, but it may motivate you to work harder and to do a better job. Ordinary anxiety is a feeling that comes and goes but does not interfere with your everyday life.
It is a known fact that people with anxiety get overwhelmed easily especially when a hand with huge responsibilities like the guest list to the flower arrangements, that need to be considered in the preparation for the big day.
At the same time, the countless possibilities for mistakes and failures can quickly activate the flight or freeze response in an anxious person. It is intense and sometimes debilitating. This type of anxiety may cause you to stop doing the things you enjoy.
No to mention, one of the most common concerns when it comes to planning a wedding with anxiety is the fear of having a panic attack, experiencing recurring panic attacks at unexpected times. A person with panic disorder may live in fear of the next panic attack.
Feelings can range from butterflies in your stomach to a racing heart. You might feel out of control like there’s a disconnect between your mind and body. An abrupt episode of intense fear that is often marked by increased heart rate, rapid breathing, restlessness, and also trouble concentrating.
Anxious people often feel weak, flawed, and in general not good enough, so when it comes to a wedding. They surround themselves with weird thoughts like not being able to meet the expectations of the family and friends and that can turn into a real nightmare for the wedding.
They are also kind of introverted and constantly worry about how not to let down their future spouse, and the worst thing is they do not share these thoughts with them too they put pressure on themselves to not disappoint their future spouse.
Challenge your negative thoughts
Ask yourself if you are assuming the worst will happen or blaming yourself for something that has not gone the way you wanted. And then think about other possible outcomes or reasons that something turned out differently than you hoped especially when you are planning your wedding.
You most probably spend a lot of time inside your own mind — worrying about the future, replaying events in the past, and generally focusing on the parts of life that leave us dissatisfied.
Maybe you can try to remove your negative thoughts by replacing them with some positive ones. For instance, instead of asking yourself, "the wedding venues might be terrible" you can think to yourself "I will visit various venues and will pick a place with good reviews".
Acknowledge your concerns and preferences
Instead of ignoring and putting your concerns aside, acknowledge them, and let others know how you’re feeling. A wedding which is a sign of love and commitment for the rest of your lives must be designed the way you both love it. It is a celebration time for both of you so you must acknowledge your choices, concerns about the cost, the size, and aspects that may need to be adjusted for you to be able to feel comfortable with the event.
Assign as much as you can
A wedding planner can be really helpful to all couples, but certainly, those where one or both partners suffers from anxiety. If you’re not able or willing to hire a wedding planner, you can surely go ahead and ask friends or family members to create a committee or group to plan the wedding together and take off some of your tasks and responsibility from your shoulders.
Planning a wedding with anxiety issues can be more troublesome for you and the people around you, so its better share responsibilities among family and friends and enjoy this ride with happiness as it is also important for a person with anxiety to be surrounded by the people they trust because they are the only one who got your back and will make sure your wedding is full of joy and love.
Practice some self-care
It’s so important to make sure you take good care of your body, mind, and soul every day, not just when you get sick or it's your wedding. Practicing self-care isn’t always easy. Most of us are crazy busy, preparing for the wedding. Take some time-out and make time for yourself.
If you’re already stressed or overworked, saying yes to loved ones can lead to burnout, anxiety, and irritability. It may take a little practice, but once you learn how to politely say no, you'll start to feel more empowered, and you'll have more time for your self-care. For instance, sleep, take a bubble bath, eat right, play with your pet, etc.
Keep your wedding day in mind
Your wedding is obviously the most important and momentous day of your life. Most probably the last 24 to 72 hours will tight and stressful for both of you, so if you or your partner is having negative thoughts calm them with your polite words. Before going to bed call each other and tell each other what you appreciate about them and the day.
After getting married you can uplift your partner's self-esteem by telling them how strong they are and you care about their feeling. Shower each other with positive thoughts each night before going to sleep, which will genuinely reduce the risk od stress in your relationship.
Lifestyle changes can be an effective way to relieve some of the stress and anxiety you may cope with every day. Most of the natural “remedies” consist of caring for your body, participating in healthy activities, and eliminating unhealthy ones.
- getting enough sleep
- staying active and exercising
- eating a healthy diet
- staying active and working out
- avoiding alcohol
- avoiding caffeine
- quitting smoking cigarettes
If these lifestyle changes seem like a positive way to help you eliminate some anxiety.