Fights You and Your Partner May Be Having In This Lockdown
There is no doubt that in this self-quarantine time couples are going nuts and expressing wrong emotions to each other. It is a stressful time being at home 24x7 with your significant other.
The coronavirus pandemic is causing drastic changes in relatively every aspect of your day-to-day life, which is hard to navigate on an individual level, let alone as part of a partnership.
While self-isolation can boost your relationship
, it can also be understandably tough on your romance. Too much togetherness, without the usual breaks for going out to eat, getting together with friends, taking exercise class, and otherwise breaking your routine can lead to frustration, boredom, and stress.
Here are some common couple fights you may be dealing with, and how best to resolve it.
Fight Over How best to prepare for the virus
A huge amount of couples are fighting over different responses to the coronavirus quarantine. Just because one thinks it would be safer to stock ourselves with groceries and supplies, while the other partner minimizes the danger and wants to only shop day by day as heeded and doesn’t feel the threat of going outside for a walk.
This can cause resentment because the scared partner feels that the minimizer doesn’t care about their needs and feelings and that their cavalier attitude will put them at physical risk. So, what we suggest here, to try to understand how your partner copes and why and to have a discussion to find a middle ground.
Fight Over Who gets to go shopping
It is risky to a foot out of your house, so couples also may be fighting over whose turn it is to grocery shop, or run essential errands. One partner might feel anxious going out, and think they will be more careful than the other under these circumstances and may crave control over the situation.
So, to end the conflict it's better just to divide errands by preference, or to simply alternate who leaves the home. It is mandatory to understand and feel the importance of acknowledging this anxiety as well as the genuine concern for each other’s health.
Fight Over The need for personal space
Well, its almost more than two months in India, the whole country is under lockdown, and you and your significant other are stuck with each other 24/7, one or both of you is probably dying for some alone time. This can be tricky especially if you’re in a smaller home or apartment, but you still have options!
Here, what you need is good communication between the two of you. Be upfront about the things you prefer but in a polite manner, things will work out normally. You can go for a short walk or can create your own "NO ENTRY ZONE" at home, it could be in the dining room, bedroom, or even time for a bubble bath.
Fight Over Varying ways of dealing with fear
Humans have different defensive styles when afraid, for instance, some may get needier and may want comfort and support whereas others may need space and freedom. These styles clash, which can cause a couple fights and make each other feel unloved. In these situations, we urge couples to remember that people often act unconsciously during times of trauma and crisis.
In these difficult times, one must learn to do things that make us feel loved like self-care and getting our needs met in creative ways ourselves when our partner is too triggered to respond.
Fight Over Household responsibilities
This the most basic reason couples get caught into an argument, especially, when couples who rely on cleaning services now have to pick up the responsibility of cleaning. These situations will bring up issues related to the division of labor; that is, who is responsible for what? So, it is best to communicate about each role, as well as each other’s expectations for what will get done each day.